Miss Ngoc Diem was a single mother, revealing 5 principles to teach good girls that everyone should respect

Ngoc Diem's ​​father is a man whom she loved so much. Miss Tourism believed that she would 'go together' for the rest of her life, but in the end, this love story quickly broke down. 'One can plan on many things, but not with love' - Ngoc Diem admitted.

She once shared about the time she was a single mother:

'From a girl who has never stumbled to life, I spend a long time full of ups and downs. Sometimes, I thought I was losing faith in myself. I am under pressure, the biggest of which is my self-doubt: is I strong enough, strong enough to protect my children? Now I find myself overcome, more mature '.

It is also because Miss Ngoc Diem is a single mother, a key person who cares for her daughter but she still has to do well every day, many people often ask her "I have young children, my work is busy too, I Arrange for housework? '.

Miss's answer lies in the principles that teach Chiko her daughter from how to empower her to make the best possible role as a mother while still having time to pursue other goals in life.

1. Principle # 1: LOVE

Always show me, parents always love me, and I don't need to be suspicious about it. Even when parents are strict and scolded, they always show love for their children. Avoid using words that make children skeptical that parents love them or not. For example:

- 'You're a bad mother and I won't love you!'

- 'I only love you when you are obedient and obey me.'

- What's worse is 'I stopped loving you!'

Children are not smart enough to realize how much their parents love for them, so such innocuous thoughts are easy to create psychological imprints for children, when they are older, facing With many social relationships and stumbling in life, the child will be bewildered about his trusted bases.

Besides, teaching me how to love people, so that the best I want to receive is also what I want for those I love.

2. Principle # 2: PRINCIPLE

Every parent loves their children, but not all parents DO ACTION to show those love. Principles help shape a number of children's characteristics, and the practice of these principles will help children develop good habits & personalities. Some examples of the principles that Diem applies to Chiko are as follows:

- DANGER: Identify dangerous objects / things and never contact / try them.

- RESPONSIBILITY: You are the one who loves you the most; and take responsibility for you. Don't expect others to love you like your parents.

- RESOLUTION OF PROBLEMS I understand you are sad when you cry. But crying does not solve the problem. Whatever you want, say and convince the people involved.

- Any number of other principles related to nutrition, education, entertainment, depending on the age that parents can adjust to suit the child's ability to receive and practice.

Diem's ​​point of view, loving without the principle of a disaster is. Parents can refer to how to build good principles for children through the book 'Extremely cruel, extremely loving' by author Satra Imas.

3. Principle # 3: Honesty & TRUST

Parents are a model of honesty and unity with their children about family honesty: being honest with others and being honest with yourself. Being honest with others is easy to understand, but how to be honest with yourself? We do not force ourselves to appear satisfied when we are not satisfied. Do not force yourself to be happy when sadness heavy. In general, it is for the child to be true to his emotions and to be able to express that true emotion. Adjusting emotions from negative to positive is a different story for parents.

Of course, when choosing honesty, parents have to face their imperfections, they are not always right with their children and they make mistakes (sometimes there are very embarrassing mistakes). And when it is wrong receive the error and will try to fix. As a result, children will:

- Dare to recognize wrong when know wrong without fear, hide

- Someone shared how to correct the mistake

- Train into a habit, a good personality to face the complex problems of later life.

- And the child's heart is very peaceful, no inner conflict, no bottlenecks.

4. Principle # 4: MAKE YOUR FRIENDS

'Making friends with children' is not just a slogan, but a change of mindset, aimed at changing specific actions in parenting. How is a good friend, the true meaning of children?

- Be a trusted, equal, imposing and non-judgmental friend.

- Parents are not 'more' than children, parents only experience more than children (of course, because they live longer & older). So the words 'Eggs are wiser than ducks', 'Your dad says it's only true!', It's best not to use them. Because of more experience, the role of the 'big friend' is to guide, guide, not impose the child at will.

- Need to respect the opinion and appearance of the child (especially when the child is over 5 years old). Thereby teaching children how to respect others.

- Friends must play together. Spend time playing with children: joint sport; general tourism; watching a movie together . It takes a common for them to mount. Diem and Chiko often watch Doraemon movies together on weekends or evenings before bed.

- Show confided: friends need to share with each other. Eating or before bed is the best time to share.

5. Principle # 5: EXCLUSION OF RIGHTS

This is a very important principle for parents to have more time to focus on other tasks, instead of under house arrest and remind children from big to small tasks. Empowering a child requires parents to (1) trust their children, (2) train their children; (3) be patient with your child, (4) accept false, (5) encourage and (6) reward.