Of the parents makes you frustrated

Are you angry that your children know that admit students more power, better sports anymore? However, any commentary would seem parents are not satisfied with the attempts of the children not only makes you frustrated, but also can do in contrast to encourage children to try more.

If the phrase "try again" that parents are going to say to you is related to the job or task daily, we can say clearly and simply, more easily understood this: "when the clean up is completed, you can bed out playing with you".

"Always ...", "you never ..."

At the heart of this is the "labels" can be attached to your child throughout his life. If parents often blame the baby that "always" forget to wash your hands before eating, can you easily become an who never washed their hands before eating.

Instead, ask your child to see you can help change the way: "my mother noticed that the picture as I at least remember the washing hands before eating. Mother and son try to think whether there are any solutions or to my mind better not! " So it's better for your baby very much.

A seemingly innocent statement again meant older decrease confidence and has negative emotions.

"Because the parent has said that they must be like!"

This put the entire control into the hands of parents, and completely gotten away the will of independence – which are on the increase-of the baby, causing the baby to reduce the ability of self understanding, thinking self. It also makes you lose an opportunity to teach your child.

For example, your child doesn't want to go visit relatives on a beautiful sunny day because they want to play outside. They will ask why necessarily to house them. Instead the phrase "because I said so!", you can try to say: "I know you liked the episode out of cycling, but Uncle a. talk a child memory. So we should try hard to express affection for the home, right? "

"A parent has to say!"

You repeatedly tell children that if electronic games during the afternoon, you will no longer have the time to prepare for the math test the next day. And the like? Because no homework carefully, your children do not post real good! But saying "Mommy has to say it!" said little that parents are always right and vice versa, you are always wrong.

Instead, let's point out the positive results if I do as you. For example, you remind me of school articles, and said: "that child study carefully, you will surely do good tests, aren't you?" Like will like the latest control and confidence in your child.

"Don't worry Baby-the first day of school one class will be fine"

The defusing a child are concerned nothing is wrong at all. But in fact, if parents tell their children not to worry, as you have denied your baby's natural feelings.

Because finally, kid home you still worry about the first day of school, and more worried that the "why I worry this?!", or worry that whether you are upset because the baby is feeling anxious or not. Instead, parents should say: "I saw was the worry. Or tell me the worry for what goes, parents can help you overcome that? "

You should encourage your child to do the right thing, don't be forced to obey the commands of his followers.

"I want you not to play with you, I don't like it".

True, a lot of parents don't like a couple of kids, for any reason; but the moment you tell your children that you don't like "the child", "child" suddenly becomes ... much more attractive in the eyes of your child.

Good for parents should talk with their children, with the hope of "plug in" to be in that story about the value, about right and wrong to their self awareness. You can also ask you some questions open, such as "How do you like to play with you B?", "my children often play with each other?" ... and then analyze the right and wrong in the actions of the baby, so will much better the prohibition.

"How do not like! Here, let me make "

Thanks your child to do something, but she did not. It's hard to restrain not to jump in and do get it done, but it will be a mistake, because if something you also do fast, then your children will never learn how to do it, and the latter will be less subject to try any anything else when you thanks.

If really necessary, you may interfere with the work you're doing, but in the way of cooperation instead of denying the employment of children: "Here, let me give you a" brilliant "mom learned on television about to fold the clothes! Very easy baby, you can do the same ".

"Why not be like you/your sister?"

The competition between brothers and sisters is very hard to avoid-and any questions nothing the parents say evokes the comparison just like pouring more oil on the fire. Comparisons always put your children on the "folder": smart, slow, dynamic kid child ... And predictably, you will make your child frustrated, don't like to try things that you yourself better.

At best, you can try to encourage each child to pursue their hobbies and interests, and not to compare your child with anyone, especially the ones around her.=