Disclosure of the 'blow' when the wife's husband, known high infidelity

Most women react blindly when her husband are related beyond the stream. They too fear, anger, pain, or want revenge and can do things which they will regret later. Please keep in mind the following things to "salvage" the marriage .

1. be crying like a child

When deciding to get someone that you had the desire to live the party that person for life. However a good day that you suddenly know the data is you husband Bo, then it's hard to control his emotions. This is the chain on, the extreme difficulties for you, or allow themselves to be hurt and crying loud so you will feel much more comfortable.

2. Don't chase him out of the House, or leave

Instead of immediately chased him out of the home or away, you let it be the last choice. Now you need to pay attention to what is happening. This is easier when the two of you still living under one roof. If chased him away or discarded, you would hardly know he's doing. As long as the two of you together, you can leave the eye to him and collected the necessary information. There are many things you need to know and consider before making a decision. Please continue to monitor the actions of her husband, the attitude, the frequency of encounters between him and Paramour, other details related to the story of adultery . Please collect the material to use in the future. Remember that as long as he's still living with you, you still have the opportunity to do these things on.

3. Don't tell everyone about her husband's affair

You'd confided to someone about her husband's story, like to have family and friends in the party. You should be cautious about people of the same mind, the girl can tell "the other woman". Make sure that you are absolutely a reliable person. Confided to a friend about her husband's men could make the situation more complicated. He can take advantage of when you are hurt. Tell your friends or family of the husband may not produce the desired results. They could not seriously, telling lies, excuses, defended him, or warnings to him erase all traces.

Confided to his family and his friends can make you more upset. Because they still hold vengeance with him after everything has been solved, and still expressed dissatisfaction when you forgive him. Be cautious when talking about her husband's confidences.

4. Spend a period of silence to think the problem and find the cause

Think carefully before acting is a job completely in your favor, so never rushing, hasten to decide something. When her husband discovered signs of infidelity, you please use location intelligence to analyse thoroughly the work, from finding a reason to convince myself see why he adultery? whether it is true? now need to handle? There should be something to do or to be "high hand", should hold or let go to divorce ...

It is a taboo for the wife is never ultimatum for her husband that "either you choose me or Mistress". The results will never go, even my husband you will immediately go out with girlfriends that do not yet know what will happen.

5. do not face him without evidence, plan and purpose

Most experts agree that you face with her husband about his adultery, but need to have a plan. Choose the time and place it carefully to the two of you can discuss the case without interruption. Don't ask my husband that "He has betrayed you?". The traitor is always lying.

Please produce evidence to prove that he had an affair outside the stream includes the name, date, location, time, absence, phonecalls, specific evidence. Then, ask him a few questions about his affair: why did he do so, how to start, how long has occurred, what does he think about the other woman, intention of him when you already know about this. Listen carefully for answers from her husband, from which you can assess the situation. Then, you will make the decision wisely.

Do not confront her husband without proof of adultery. Doing so does not solve the problem which is just a waste of time. You need to prove what an affair is real. You can read books, buy software or surveillance equipment to collect the information about her husband's adultery.

6. Don't waste time and energy on your third guys

One of the worst things you can do is haunted by that woman. An instinctive way, you will be curious about her, but she's not worthy of your time and your energy. Row asked her husband about her, talking to her or mentioning her name in conversation with my husband is not worth to you do. Don't be obsessed about what happened between her husband and her. Let's focus on the story of the couple. Don't be humiliated or DIY fail yourself by phone call or face to face with the woman and ask her to keep letting my husband. She has no reason to make your request.

Harassing or threatening her unlawful behavior. Name-calling, criticize or belittle just made them closer instead of forcing them away from each other. Forget the other woman and the same energy focus the effort on your marriage.

You two will end or start over together? The end result depends on your attitude, actions in the first moment you discovered her husband's affair. In the early stages, you may not be sure of what I should do, but at least you know what not to do.

7. Speak clearly and talk about feelings, wishes

Many people often o emotional closing in to the stress and unpleasant pain, meanwhile my husband also does not know what you are looking to him to atone. So, let's find out technical problems, choose the appropriate time only two spouses, expressed your thoughts clearly, including your frustration, distrust, you need anything in this relationship and to determine where it will go.

Also, if you still want to find out about his relationship with the other woman, ask him a definitive time and do not prompt again to go anymore. The repeat often don't make you less miserable that you husband also saw tension. In addition, you want him to do to you can be trusted, frankly expressed.

8. Look get back your marriage

Despite being the most miserable but you also need calm and lucid look back at his marriage. Ask yourself the question view is he is the person in charge with family and loves you or not, are what made him disillusioned about his wife that you can not get out? Or maybe too anxious sacrifice for my husband that you forget yourself make yourself negative changes of appearance and personality? Everything should be seen clearly, if necessary talk to someone you trust to help you get the most objective decision.

9. Learn to accept and forgive

To forgive others is how to remove the burden from ourselves. Maybe you don't want to bend at also weighed the sadness and the wrath? Whether you keep forever the unspeakable joy in not making the situation improved further but also makes you more collapsed. Moreover, can not change the past, you can't erase it all was. So then the only way or accept it and he's rebuilding, or are you going to throw away all. Try to change the way to see when the problem does not change, it is time you're helping yourself to remove the burden themselves.

10. Create the confidence for the enemy

Don't think that when he was betrayed, you no longer have little faith for her husband. Of course, restoring trust is extremely hard but you can't watch him 24/24 h. Furthermore people often say "want to keep love , let's give them wings". So put your faith in your partner if he is willing to take responsibility before his actions and expressed goodwill fixes. Don't try killing each other by taking control, like you're providing oxygen for him to breathe.

11. think about it

There are many woman who immediately look to the death, or assaulting her husband and a third person already married you interject. But that stupid, they are worth to you to have to do that? Is it worth to you to violate the law, hurting yourself or not? Let's think more about life, about everything and remember that life is still much worth many times the pain you experience.

12. Finally, don't blame your husband gnashed his

Anyway things have happened and, if you've decided to forgive him, you should not haul out the old story to blame your husband keep his every argument or not, it just makes him tired, upset and easy return path adultery again.=

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