Married wife with HIV caught the 'bear of shit'

This is one of many stories of the team of specialists support center for community development initiatives (Union of the Vietnam science and technology society) recorded in the process learn and HIV-infected people to interview about the prominent problems in the lives of people with HIV , especially the people who have HIV but are living with your wife or husband with HIV negative. Fear of abandonment-settled obsession The encouragement, convinced of the locality, the Group of experts conducted research on also approached her and he was with the wall (the same 34 years, stay at the Dong Da District, Hanoi-character names were changed-PV). He has HIV infection four years ago Wall, while Ms. also carries the disease of the century was almost a year and a half. In the small room where coexistence of 3 generations (parents-British wall, her husband and two small children – year 6 and 8 years old), her share on the date of the most terrible in his life, during which she faced with her husband's HIV infection, followed by a series of tragedies poured down the head sister , which is the most heavily she pressed her husband to infected because he feared she would carry the child left me out. "Today you late? She bored me, right? Or is she going to fuck? "-Ms. horizontal wipe his tears when told about the date of my husband like crazy after learning he had HIV. She said, he the wall being a formidable obsession on the mind. That is the time I think I'm being both hate, discrimination, but no one dared to speak out. Combined with the lack of appetite, declining health, sudden drop in weight, more difficult, or the suspect hinted, even beaten, name-calling wife not sorry lyrics. The first time live in extreme agony, her restraint because I think the wall is a psychological shock and yet be familiar as well as accept the truth that he was infected with the same ailment, healing methods. So, you bite your teeth to endure, along both dissuade you, exactly like the day you are normally involved drugs, both were all to return but impotent. And this time, my sister as well as my family continued to repeat that inability, because of all the gentle words, admonished, as there is little weight to a man worthy of the most vibrant years are now again entangled in HIV. Her as gentle and comforting my husband I think more Wall she pretended, trying to do so for you peace of mind, the guard, and then multiply that chance hugs away from home. "I also really hurts, upset, he decline the part 10 I also decline. Much too shallow at the thought, I feel this life nothing that new or trying, just want to let go of the prose. But the thought of 2 small children, I back the ballast.

Married wife tragedy of HIV infection caught "bear of shit"

Ill husband but I'm not shunned, not disdain, the more I hurt him, because despite what a day living together should also should love. During the two years he's infected, I though there are depressed but absolutely never have thought would leave him to go. Because I've decided to stick with him until the last moment for the whole meaning of love, then have backed out then. Song he doesn't believe what I say. Disease and fear will overtake have abandoned all thoughts, "Ms. confided about his time filled in the family. According to her, he's just Wall "" the sister rather than the children, the parents do not. There the night, two children were sleeping soundly, the couple lies side by side, each a thought. At that time, she found he was almost gentle Wall back, associated turned to plan to pacify him. But the cold: "you don't have to pretend with me. I have dead eyes looked up she will also, so that she could not go with the other guy. " She's saying as the intense cold water into the rice, making her sister off ngúm all hope about the san with the husband. But not far enough. Afraid I will live alone and disease until the end of his life, while his wife and children might have a totally different life, he increasingly had the Wall acting overdone, which makes family life more stressful. If the former, each at her sleeping son, British to ru Yen now, I caught Grandma must take this to not give her time away. There the night and woke up, startled, her sweating hands, legs because its granular chained tightly to the mast head locked in chains, solidly. He still is next to the Wall. Sister panic turned up, he just cold Wall says: "so that she could not leave that gone. You don't think me that easy ". Getting my wife to HIV to his wife is faithful The obsession for fear of abandonment of him on a Wall grow and eventually turn into a great tragedy when he saw his wife refused to have sex with her. Her mind: though love her husband, wounded her husband and no thoughts betray her husband, leaving her husband but she is still very "scared" to relations with Britain by anxiety will infection. She has also asked the opinion of the physician, the advice about sexual health problems for ordinary people when the husband/wife with HIV infection, but the sister information received is still not enough to help you have a more confident, aside the fears inherent to normal relations with Britain as before. She feared that, in time, could the condom broke, causing the sister could not avoid infection. Therefore, I seek to deny England the wall. This action of Ms. as drops of water make the spill cups, making him the Walls which are traumatized mentally, emotionally mainland think about sure his wife divorced stories calculated to leave. Thus, more determined to find ways to keep by being the wife in the back next to her. And the way you think, really effective, but extremely cruel. He caught his wife Wall sex without using a condom with the purpose to his wife along with HIV infection, and that he would publicly what his infected wife.

Meanwhile, he believed that his wife would Wall off the go with other guys. She will have no other choice is to stay beside him till death. And he has found a Wall of all measures to be implemented this way. Being the wife refuses, he the wall used violence to force his wife to be ties, despite the dissuade, begging of her parents on either side. Ms. even carry 2 small children out to "speak", that if she was also infected and died early, who will feed the children? The purpose of this talk is to crush your selfish Wall down. But after the fight, he did not abandon the old one. Finally Ms. also infected in the man he's my husband. The thing, after you've made your wife infected, have the Wall he seems to feel a vague way about what is waiting in front. From there, he no longer sounding, no longer beating his wife which became other people: Mistakes his tenacity, his collection back in order, leaving room for all. Saw this story (and many other similar stories), she Hid Nagasai, A Centre for community development initiatives (Union of scientific and engineering society of Vietnam), Chairman of the research on the lives of people with HIV, particularly people who have HIV but are negative spouse living with HIV , provide more information: "the fear of being mates, being his wife and family, relatives shunned neglected is the biggest fear of people infected with HIV. For them, you or your wife has a particularly important role to san shared the loss, hurt, because they only get mental satisfaction with his mate. If losing this seat, they will be very prone to disorientation, falling into extreme status, encyclopedia ". In addition to the reason you love/fear of being shunned and wife, unmet emotional needs, sexuality, HIV-infected people also have other fears, that is must go alone. In fact, in the hospital specializes in treatment for patients with end-stage HIV infection, there are several patients die but nobody to pick up correctly, including the parent. Even when informed about the situation of their children, many parents blindly entrust entirely to the hospital, regarded as a "burden" has been put away. Therefore, people with HIV are afraid he will again fall into this tragic drama. According to the doctor, now, with the knowledge of sexual health is widely available on a variety of information channels, the couple negative-positive for HIV can still living safe sex if you know find yourself a health protection measures in accordance with the wishes , hobbies, condition of both. In fact, there are 85% of respondents said they use contraceptives and 98% of respondents said they used a condom when relations with people infected with HIV. The results showed them safe before the risk of infectious disease of the century.=