'Wild trót' should there be forgiveness?

I am distressed to realize that whether forgiveness or not, I'm still obsessed.

The couple I took ten years, flower beds but ever so romantic. He worked in a Ministry should occasionally have to go to work but after every trip we spend more time for each other.

In economics, money earned the couple outside investment for the College, travel, builds life ... Have to say, we have had the happy family life both inside and outside.

However about 1 month, I saw my husband has a box of condoms only 1 one. The couple I together never use this. I ransacked the new husband as "drunk have a Minx invites so he could not restrain," he apologized to me. I was angry to the purple side.

We came together because of love. In a relationship, is the first of the other. Each expressed many times that "no third person" in her husband-wife relations. So that only one drunk, he has violated. I can not forgive.

But the thing I find most disturbed when I confided his story, many have proved to be "condemned" me too harsh. My sisters best friend of the same agency also advised I should ignore him. She said in case of travel as my husband then 1 or 2 even more than the "eating" is also available.

She said that the couple's relationship, relationships, old I have to refresh to the husband. She says a physical phenomenon, the affordable sister told me I must do myself hot and PM my husband more. "What to do" more are also to her husband. She also has a point, but ... where's the family-keeping responsibility only of women own only?

I imagine his footage is also eating for revenge, but is only thought in the mind of the idea that I was "not able to forgive myself." I understand that because I loved him, loved his family should restrain themselves.

To keep the family happy, the wife is "senior", in contrast to why I Stern with her husband not be? There are currently everything should even modern the modern family happiness was also "fix"?

As possible since, as argued as I choke back. Sacrifice for my family, I get angry about things and bitter.=