Controversy frequently family celebration

1. Money

The overspending on new year is one reason why so many families are stressful. New year expenses for stretching out and when to do the calculation in total is at the couple conflict occurs because the money was too much. The area of donations in a year that left several days in the lunar new year.

Experts: Please arrange to have a plan, don't let yourself fall into the empty bag scene after the Lunar New Year holiday. The spouses should be facing the target story honestly, Tet established a reasonable limit. You should also save a little each month to bonus wages last year did not bear all costs during Tet.

You can select the items to sell offinventory in flushing, Tet, do some dishes and decorations for their homes instead of buying to reduce spending, sharing common services with some friends, for example General rental cars with family friends to reduce travel expenses.

2. the two sides family

A very old truth is we never choose who his blood, and this is also true with the side of your mate. Time love, you are often not sufficiently awake to realize an authoritarian mother or an uncle something. However, in an extended family on either side of four of them, be sure you also find a couple of people I can trust and share.

Tips: before listing the stupid people, remember that the relatives of the husband/wife makes you uncomfortable, you can leave the husband/wife you love. Even if people agree with you, you also should only gently question the behaviour not good that their relatives but did not give any comment. If the husband/wife you also don't like that person, two people can limit exposure. But if the husband/wife you see no matter what, you ask him/her to help themselves in manners.

3. Sexual intercourse

In these new year alcohol should, sitting just where her husband bedroom set backs is snoring o o. even home pull in both the smell of beer wine and drunk again. With a series of stress and have fun too momentum on new year, may your spouse left the bruised in when you want to close. And this makes them both feel resentful.

Expert: Let's chat with each other about the intimate needs, the same effort to help subsidize a decimated and Let's arrange some private time for husband and wife.

4. labor assignment

The idea is merely the chores in the House, a second attempt is finished. But the new year turned out to a lot of errands. Much of the time you feel are overloaded with the unnamed work while you remain indifferent and disengaged as normal.

Experts: When to start preparing for the new year, let's make a list of what needs to be done and determine who will be the responsible person for each job. Each week should talk back to evaluate your implementation process, editing the list when needed, and discuss the person's feeling. If one of the two people feel unbalanced workload, speak out and adjusted.

5. Gifts, donations

List gifts on new year also causes a lot of headaches. The person then to thank, who then gave gifts to get the relationship ... Decide who gets what gifts and gifts also led the couple to quarrel.

Expert: the key to avoiding conflict about the gifts, courtesy of TET is honest exchange and does not set out the assumptions about other people's expectations. This talk soon and decide who's in your family, friends and acquaintances would be giving gifts, and the couple you can spend how much for new year gifts courtesy.

6. The children

On new year, children are school vacation 2 weeks. You have to worry for my child from eating the rest, have fun. Sometimes you will not curb because the inverse or nag break the noise of children. You want the kids to have a new year it's good but how can accomplish that without going crazy because of the kids, or arguing with your partner as well as children.

Expert: You were off work. The children don't go to school and schedule of activities they were upside down. You do not create pressure to keep eating schedule of sleeping children. You can up to plan a ride fit for children. You should remember that the best thing can bring for the children during the holidays is your time.

7. Drink too much beer

The lunar new year is the time to have the party and celebrate with family and friends. Unfortunately, all the party are all good reasons for bad behavior: excessive drinking.

Experts: When both of you together the Apple, let's talk about this important topic of reunification should only drink how much and who will be the driver (to be fair, can change). Then, both support each other in keeping the promise.

8. The packed party and celebrate the new year

Join many groups of the society, you will attend the year-end holidays or new year celebration with a group of friends? Your school or College, or the party of the family. You have brought the couple to a party in the same company or go it alone. You like to eat in the inner House or home. Ironically, the happiest time of the year can also be the most stressful time, when the couple have different ideas about the celebration activities.

Specialist: list events that people want to engage you and together decide where is an important event with the whole family, where is the only event for an individual. Please respect each other.

Conflict around the planning of play is something inevitable in these holidays. If conflicts occur is due to an error, to apologize quickly and sincere at the same time seeking to resolve. If the error from your partner, please forgive quickly and find a common solution for both.

9. housing decoration

You want a kumquat, a peach tree, apricot tree to to where and want to spend the money on flowers for Tet, how you want to decorate the lamp color, want to paste flowers on the wall. The ideal small things like that can also be the cause of frustration or conflict in the family.

Expert: Let's end the debate about the decoration of their homes before heading to the United States market. Perhaps you have not married if know the husband/wife spend crazy money to decorate their homes, but now it was too late. So each person please give a little and you will have a nice new year.

10. Tet where

This is a problem that many families experience when the lunar new year. It is hard to decide when both internal and foreign parties all want to welcome your little family on Tet. And what happens if someone wants to travel on this occasion?

Expert: sometimes these special situations will decide on your behalf. For example, if a family member is ill, naturally you should prioritize spending time visitation. If not, it is best to divide the time for both sides of the exterior. If one of two people wanted to escape and the other is not, let's discuss your wishes in the most honest way holidays and see whether the two can compromise with each other, for example to visit her parents in June 1 and then go on vacation together.=