Prejudice of 'daughter son' ...

Hello, you, I'm falling in a difficult situation, are looking forward to receiving the advice of the siblings. I was 29 years old, the age not already old but were not young storks. New Islamic University, I also have a few people to put the issue of love, but I don't know the number or high that love to go again. Until last year, when I was 28 years old I accepted new love a man and intended to go to marriage.

I love you, want to marry you, but fear themselves underprivileged

He is an experienced copper mine. We also did together over 4 years and love each other more than a year, over time know and exposure I noticed he was a good man, have a responsibility to my family. He than I am 8 years old and mature thinking in everything. There are other things, with the other man, he has a life of his wife, and now the two have separated. The reason for the separation is not due to him that the wife is due to have another person, so the two decided to divorce. After the divorce the wife to America, settled by new husband should have left their two children to England. This is also the reason that my family, especially my mother vehemently opposed the marriage because I will suffer disadvantage if retrieved. My parents said that once the man has ever been his wife abandon him certainly does not happen, then the other disabled patients, but if good then the wife has not put him off.

Moreover, my mom also said that I was the daughter of son but retrieved a man has had a lifetime of being his wife, wife and two adopted sons, the underprivileged. If retrieved on her husband's feelings will not take me to san sharing for your son. Moreover, I will have to respond to a child's own husband?. So my mom asked, just marry as if my husband not raising two kids. But this is extremely difficult, because his former wife had settled with her husband to America, they also had his own family and have children, so she is unable to responsibly raising children are, because her husband she will sure hard to agree. But it is true that my mother was right, if I marry you I will have to take the responsibility with your child, to take care of them, and then later I and you must also have added 1 to 2 children anymore, so that the lives of the couple I will be incredibly hard for to take care of and raising 4 kids eat school. Though very love you, and want to live with you, but look at the difficulties before my eyes start to feel incredibly anxious and confused. I don't know what I will do now, he decided to share the difficulties with English, or find yourself a man, to the heavy burden not with the child's own husband?. Looking forward to you, you give me an advice.  =