Science proves: The husband is more afraid of his wife, the happier his family?

The more 'husband is afraid of his wife', the happier the family is?

Psychologists citing the case of Lauren and Steven are a case in point. Steven told his wife that he was going away with his friends tonight. Lauren's wife answered that she wanted her husband to stay until tomorrow morning to help clean up because the house was about to be occupied. The husband replied 'no' and blamed his wife for not remembering the trip schedule. So both argued, the one burst into tears, the one left.

According to psychologists, couples often have problems when they link one negative to the other instead of trying to reduce the escalation of conflict. Dr. Gottman explained in his book '7 principles for successful marriage' that 65% of men often increase the negativity in the argument.

Steven's reaction did not show that he listened to his wife's complaints. Instead, he appeared defensive and complained back: 'Why don't you remember my plan?'

4 taboos: Criticism, defense, contempt, and silence - are signs that a man is resisting his wife's influence on him.

This is not deposing men. It takes two people to help a successful marriage and a wife needs to treat her husband with respect, but Dr. Gottman's research shows that most wives do it, only men do not.

Research shows that 81% of a marriage will be broken when a man refuses to listen to his wife.

Guys, let go of 'pride', 'fear' your wife a little more

In fact, 'fear of a wife' is not actually fear, but a kind of respect and concern, a kind of understanding and tolerance. Understand and sympathize with the wife's hardships, do a little more errands to help her, make her have more joy, that is sharing care, respect for love.

Do not compare with his wife the small things, the small issues do not bother her, the big issues are discussed with each other. Do not be a little small things that argue with his wife to show purple ears.

As long as the men can let go of the so-called 'dignity', may be 'a little' more afraid of the wife, then the couple can maintain a sweet, happy love.

In fact, many scientific studies have shown the same thing. After studying 130 couples, a psychiatrist named John Gottman said that couples with respectable, pampered wives are less likely to conflict and have a quieter, more stable married life. .

He also said a lot of husband and wife conflicts occur for the same reason: They don't listen. Instead of sitting down, meditating and resolving the conflict, they shouted, got angry and acted for their selfish ego. Marriage therefore becomes increasingly stifling.

Today, the husbands often believe that respect, giving up wife is the loss of morale. But another study found that more than 80% of families would be broken if their husbands didn't listen to their wives. Between morale, your honor and your family, what do you choose?

Many people have cultivated a conservative mindset based on mistaken notions. They believe that Confucianism is discrimination between men and women, and respect men and women. But in fact, the foundation of Confucianism is neutrality, without any extreme priority for men.

Regarding husband and wife religion, the ancients also taught: 'The bride is similar to the new bride' (husband and wife respect each other as guests, use the ceremony to treat each other). Having considered each other as guests, they must both respect, respect and both listen and understand each other.

A husband who knows his wife as a guest, having fun saying it is not easy to know how to 'fear his wife' properly. It must be a man with a high emotional score, sensitive, caring, tolerant, forgiving and sometimes patient.

They are ready to remove the ego to lift his wife, listen, protect her. They are also willing to express love to their wives whether at home or in the middle of a crowded place. They are not afraid of the worldly language, they are not afraid to be mocked as the 'bearded man'.

They understand that the last words were just as faint as the smoke, at least not worth the concern. The key is to love your wife, love your children, keep the home.