3 wrong ways to teach children make children self-deprecating, violent, many Vietnamese mothers suffer

Use whip, violence

Children are often extremely active so the ancients often say that 'love for whips' means to teach children that parents need to be strict and sometimes resort to violence so that they can remember the lessons parents taught. But in fact this job is completely counterproductive. The fact that parents use violence against children will make them much tougher, stubborn and more difficult.

When parents use a whip, it can be very effective in the first few times, but even more later it reveals disadvantages. If your children are wrong, their parents will be 'upper-class, lower-handed' or beaten, they will have a fearful spirit, haunting their parents' blows. But if this measure is used for a long time, the children will get used to those blows and become lame, later when they grow up, all the problems will be solved by violence.

Fight children in public

Children seem to understand nothing and do not need face. But not so, anyone born with self-esteem and self-esteem, a child is no exception. When parents are angry and scold and punish their children in crowded places, it will create shame, inferiority, weakness . when these negative emotions are repressed so long that the peak will affect personality , causing children to act negatively without warning.

When you can overcome those negative emotions, it also becomes a shame, an obsession throughout your whole life that the actions of your parents themselves have caused their children to be hurt. Maybe the children do not share with their parents, but from the depths of their hearts, whenever they remember that, they are gnawing at shame, shyness . long-term, creating a lack of confidence, easily falling into a state of mind negative reason.

Throw away or chase your child out of the house

When parents are angry with their children, they often pretend to chase their children out of their homes or often say 'you don't care for me'. These words are only punitive to be awake, but parents accidentally create tremendous injuries for children.

In fact, many babies were really depressed when they thought their parents did not love their children anymore, because of a small mistake that was abandoned by their parents. This makes children scared, panic, gradually forming psychological fear of doing wrong will be hated by her mother.