The secret chat with mother-in-law

You do not lie that is cleverly to know what should and should not tell her husband. By the young people think simple but extremely complex in the old people's inner world. For example, mother-in-law from country visits. See her wear a pair of plastic sandals worn parrots, you then go buy a new pair of leather sandals.

But if not, say you are very easy to make the mother the husband think daughter-in-law are ashamed because her old slippers and worse is disdained. So, instead of security: "my mother put her Sandals off, my mother bought new slippers", you just simply said: "you see there with sandals you buy gifts.". Sometimes, as simple as possible effective because like you help caught errors in words, she does not do much thinking.

Avoid touching the sensitive things to say

Older people as possible about the elderly more attributes on a child, wanted to be spoil children interested. They also wear their feelings is the burden of children, often sulking if children superficial. They fear abandonment, loneliness ... Therefore, often vulnerable, or deductive, despite what you say not implying anything.

You need to know the characteristics of adult age to understand and sympathize if sometimes there's mother-in-law proved uncomfortable. At say a problem something somewhat sensitive, you should select the real close, gentle, easy to understand and can be remotely close to avoid being misunderstood.

Such phone call mother-in-law said, next week she will come home to play for a few days. But it is the time you are very busy with other projects at the company, is in the Agency to the blackened. You want to say she to play next month. However, if you start: "this month the busy too...", immediately she would only remember saying that and think you're dodging.

Instead, you can gently ask: "mom, through the early months of his mother to arrange out playing with us a long long time! At the time the vacation will play at home with her mother a lot more than ". She must be very happy to hear this.

Search the General Preferences

Many people fret not know what chat with her husband though mother very like to chat with her. So why don't you find out what common interests or shared his concerns with the mother-in-law to "eight" with her more often.

For example, the hobby of watching movies, or cooking, flower, see Opera ... such. When talking about what you feed the interest and love, you will talk to be natural, there's more excitement and mother-in-law also will easily open with you.

Share your life with mother-in-law

Don't ever believe that mother-in-law, don't know anything about your life that you should share the things happening around her with her husband's mother every day and listening to her tell of her life. Mother-in-law must you will very happy if you listen intently she tells of her childhood or enjoy the stories related to the ones in my husband's family.

Share life with each other every day is also the way to mutually understand each other more, but of course you should also not "ramblings" too many things are not needed or stood with her husband's mother say bad someone in the family.

Do not use the "Suite"

If you and my husband got the "Suite" to express the feelings for each other or make life marriage more exciting section then please remember that should only be used when there are two people not say even when there is the appearance of the mother-in-law. If your mother-in-law heard the words that she does not understand, while the bride back for tủm tỉm laugh, she will think that you are being told the bad. The principle when talking with her husband, mother to do so.

Avoid using the word mean to differentiate

When talking with the mother of my husband, don't ever use the phrase as "the time of mother/child's forecast", "mother .../now we ...". Heard the phrase as such, much of the mother-in-law feels that she is being neglected, being separated from your life and her beloved son.

When you have about how the bride, mother-in-law always wanted to extend to welcome you. And if tried to treat a stranger as you are the children in the House, she also wants you to see her as his mother. Thus, the mother-in-law didn't like hearing the bride said "my mother ...". To hear you say that, the mother-in-law will think are distinguished bride.

The mother quit her husband

"Words don't lose money buying", so why don't you enlist "mother-in-law" quit a bit so she feels more fun. Switch your mother's cooking praise or compliment homes neat arrangement. Mother-in-law would not have fun if you like but compliments Strawberry: "in this age and that mom was still black and silky, not know after this came of age his mother, my hair has been so beautiful?"

Are the compliments everybody likes, but you should note that, to "quit" mother-in-law based on sincerity because elderly women are very sensitive and will realize immediately if you quit nọt artificially. Then all of you will work.

Listen to and respect

With a old people what not fun by seeing the grandchildren listen to yourself. Older people often think I have more experience and always want to communicate back to the next generation. She will be very happy to see the bride know hear the monitory taught there. Can, a few experiences that was obsolete but you also don't outright denials.

At convenient and fun, you gently explained to her listen to a simple and easy to understand for that matter. Better do not tell what she say wrong that as you are updating to a new information. Avoid telling too much about private things between you and her husband. You were and are unique location in the heart of her son. Therefore, the mother-in-law is also usually has a little envious and review with you. You don't rush for it's selfish because the mother would want less children to love themselves.

So you should really finesse: don't tell your husband loving words for yourself or the breeze the gift he bought. That little lot will make her feel lonely, lock. You also avoid too intimate and her husband in front of her husband's mother. Sometimes you should remind the husband buy gifts and then publicly donated to both the mother and you. Like her husband, mom you will feel very warm and comforting.=