Flattering the-harm

Stephen Grosz (British) insists that such comments could hinder their learning at school. He said the rave "stilted" meant not happy, because we can not live up to the expectations of that illusion. The biggest problem with this sentence is that parents often talk several times and for all the work that the child does not really attempt to achieve. This teaches the child that the child doing anything is a "good thing".

Instead of generously donated the excessive praise, parents can say: "I'm so happy you try hard". By focusing on the efforts of a child, parents are taught me that the trying and hard work are more important than the results achieved. This teaches the child to persevere rather than when they are doing a difficult task and not falter if have met defeat.

"I"

In contrast to what I was hoping, this sentence if used in the wrong context will have the effect not good. Most parents say this as a way to foster a child. However, not always results as parents expect. Are parents praise "good boy" after the finish work mum has delivered, baby will argue that his "good girl" because her mother did what he asked. This creates a "scenario" in which the children are afraid to lose "titles" should new baby tried to do what my mother said not to realize what is good.

For example, when parents ask baby to share toys for you, baby do and my mom said "good boy!". Baby will think you hear is "good". The reality is not. What I want is babies recognize the share you new toys as well. Therefore, I should say "I'm so happy you shared your toys". This will help your baby to understand good work I should be doing and from there decide to repeat such actions, not doing it just to make my mother happy.

"Gifted Child!"

When a picture of her mother trotted kid draw, I quickly responded, "nice drawing Son!". This has indirectly taken opportunities to older studies assessing the ability of ourselves.

Experts recommend that parents and teachers should limit praise and use the phrase child greetings for "attempt".

Tell your child that "you do good-you have to try more". Instead of saying "you do good job-your very talented". Or instead of immediately praise, parents can suggest "Parents see red, green and gold! I told mom to see what are you drawing? ". By bringing out an observation rather than reviews, parents allow the child to see baby painting drawing is beautiful or not. Perhaps the kid was going to paint a scary picture? By asking your child tells you about the painting, I will help you self evaluate his work and sharing the intention, skill is useful for the child when growing up.

"The clever"

When parents tell children that they are smart, I think that he is trying to promote the confidence of children. Unfortunately, the praise of smart parents sometimes counterproductive. By speaking with them, my mom accidentally sent the message that the smart kids when were layer up, score 10 or be good students ... that would be a very great pressure.

Studies have shown that when smart compliments after the answer was a problem ... will reduce the effort to do a more difficult problem. That is because the child is worried that if they don't do well, I no longer think they are smart.

Instead, try talking to your child that parents appreciate the try. By focusing on the effort, rather than results, parents are taught the children to know what's really important. Certainly, solved a difficult problem is fun but efforts to solve the difficult problem than truly mean.=