To the confident, don't ever say ' shy boy '

Don't be labeled negatively for if want your confidence.

If you want your child to become strong, confident child, be cautious with the comment about the baby. The majority of us naturally labeled for it in many different ways: "clever", "baby baby baby", "shy real very hyperactive" ... in particular, it is often easy to assign the transplant for more negative traits are positive. Before the birth, I used to take care of hundreds of preschool and I am very shocked to see the parents blatantly labeled for his children. I think will never do that.

The kids will have to how to change the characteristics that adults have assigned to them? Currently, I have 3 very different children, and I know it is hard to not labeled for babies. I have repeatedly had to bite his tongue to avoid uttering the words comparing them with each other. And I'm using a pretty effective strategy that my parents had applied for his sister.

Back in the 1970s, my parents have an interesting decision is born of her daughter three sailings within 3 years. From the need to talk, we get a lot of comments each time. "Oh look at the little girl!", people uttered after that and then they started asking: "this girl seems shy?", they point at me and followed: "parenting this kid seems hard?".

However, my parents always say: "all three are clever, creative, and intelligent. We are very lucky ". My parents had to "fool" us and that have effectively promoted. My sister is always trying to correct his parents who are lucky as they think. I daresay that, my sister today could become successful women, confident, powerful is thanks to the positive label that parents have the paste for his childhood.

To your child confidence, parents should note:

Let the kid accidentally hear of your positive review

Be overheard the positive remarks about his parents ' will help the child get stronger is to be heard directly. Because in this way, the child feels himself to be the parents more trust.

Delete the "shy" out of your dictionary

The more you have to pay more attention when describing the baby from can cause both the results of negative and positive way, such as "shy". When I was a teacher, the parents in the first session put the class often say: "shy Boy" and the child will be able to cling to swings on the parents, bowed down and become extremely less confident. Of course, there will be some places than dè other kids but assigned to older properties will only make it more currency into his shell and more and more difficult to break the shyness.Help baby to break the ice in the new environment

If you are not comfortable with new people or new environment, give baby a chance to break out of his shell by encouraging baby to overcome the reservations of leading worry. With a baby to a new location, for example parks, please encourage your baby to talk with peers and other adults ages about specific things that you know is very excited, for example baby's siblings, the holiday, toy or activity that she loves ... Then, in the evening, you can preserve your child's confidence by telling your partner or close friends: "today, at play in the Park, she has shown herself to be so good. She told the mother of a new dog house you have about yourself. I'm very proud of the way I said to her ".

Pay attention both to other children

Currently, I have to confront the two year old son was praised a lot too, in any place we go through. Strangers always relentlessly: "Oh lovely boy too." And I always have to make sure he's also comfortable by saying: "well, thank you. All three of my sons you are cute, clever and all. We are very lucky right? ".

And I know, as do my parents, I'm consolidating confidence for your child.=