Virginity and lover, where's the need to keep?

I'm standing before difficult choices ... Hello readers! I'm the NTH year, age 25. I've graduated from college and is working in Hanoi. A year ago I know and love the people who love me. He was born and grew up in the Pacific, and also has a graduate school to work. He than I am 4 years old, we know each other through a friend. Though new love are short of time, but people love me always asking me "that" every time they go out together. I do not agree because that is the ethical violation, and if not to be together then women will disadvantage ... But he told me I was being apathetic, slow progress, close-minded, or 25 years and then that thought by her 18 years, ... I know, maybe you're right, because today many have no importance to the issue of virginity. But I, I don't like them, and I never changed that perspective. But people love me, you decide to have sex before marriage, if not then not will love. We also have been separated because of the contradictions in this matter, but then because still love each other so both of us back to heal and get back together. But for how long, we do quarrel and cause still revolves around the problem I tried to keep with you, and would like to have by being my virginity. And then you said I didn't love you I should not love him by "hard", and threatened to seek prostitutes.

Photo illustrations Thought you were joking that to scare me, dè lover I had sex with prostitutes. I know this because once to his accommodation and his friend was talking to me. They say, her name is H, and had her husband and a child, but do not understand the reason for which the couple she broke, she raising children alone and often through the room I love sleep. They also said between two people is just "peeling the pay cake" rather than absolute is not love. I do not believe in the things he ever since, so I've directly asked, nonchalantly confirms that it's true. And that's with you sex is important, it is a part of life, but I love him not responding so I have to search to prostitutes to happy. He even mocked me because of that, I try to keep using was virginity to the wedding night is archaic, and told me to go ask all the new girl grew up watching, there's still someone a virgin or not?. His friends, they try to live with her lover, lover or put to rest home is common. I considered it unusual. He also affirmed always, if I keep the virginity then will not hold him again. It's something I don't look forward to, because I'm a girl so discreet no easy for me to accept. Furthermore, I have 25 years old, the age is not much but not young anymore, friends I also had my husband. I also like to proceed to marriage to a stable life. So I think we have to change. But it's hard, because from now until I determined that virginity is just given to her husband during the wedding night. There I was standing in front of a difficult choice. One is to keep the lover will lose virginity, the two are keeping virginity lose lover. So I should keep what?. Chuhoa87 ...